I’ve always liked putting outfits together, and honestly, I’ve never liked wearing the same outfit twice. I kind of hate to admit that, because for most of my life, that meant I was always buying things to keep from feeling like I had nothing to wear.
When we got married, my husband and I had a little chat about my spending habits and how they needed a makeover. Honestly, I was relieved. I was tired of feeling guilty about buying things all the time and still feeling like I had nothing to wear. I felt stuck in this cycle that I didn’t know how to get out of.
This is my sweet husband. Look at that face! How could I say no to him?
Not long after our chat, with Troy’s wise words echoing through my mind (but no real idea of an actual plan to quit shopping) a few things happened that ended up with me breaking up with shopping for a year:
- I started working for a non-profit that helps families escape the cycle of poverty. As I sat across the table from a young dad who wept, telling me how he’d sold everything they had to try to keep food on the table for his wife and babies, my heart was broken. Shopping isn’t a bad thing, but I wanted to quit feeling like I had to buy things and be really purposeful with what I bought so I could bless others…I just had no idea how to do that.
- But then, a few weeks later, our pastor challenged us to give up something good for something eternal, so my friend Kat and I came up with a plan to give up shopping for a year- no shoes, no clothes, no accessories, and we’d save the money we would have spent on ourselves and pray about where God wanted it to go instead.
I was nervous and didn’t even know if I’d be able to stick it out, but I was so ready for a change.
The next 12 months of my life flipped my thoughts and habits upside down. I learned that my average-size closet had more than 365 unique outfits hanging in it, and because I talked about what I was learning on Greater Than Rubies, I saw what I was doing connect with women all over the world. I got really excited about helping them learn how to dress their bodies, put together outfits, and feel gorgeous starting with the clothing that’s hanging in their closet.
Thinking about a break up yourself? Click here for my suggestions.
Want to read more about the challenge? Here are my monthly thoughts from that year…
I’ve also gotten to share a few of your shopping break up stories! Click here to read them.