Are Your Clothes Talking to You, Too?

Closet Clean Out

Have you ever thought about what your clothes say to you?

I don’t know about you, but how I dress affects how I feel about and carry myself more than I’d like to admit.

After reading a bunch of Ramit’s material, I started catching on to the fact that I have invisible scripts about clothing.

Ramit talks about invisible scripts that hold us back because they’re assumptions rooted so deeply in our lives we don’t recognize them, much less question them.

Some of my assumptions look like:

  • I can’t wear yellow.
  • Sparkles are only for night. {This was more of a pre-Texas script, because even guys wear bedazzled jeans and belts here.}
  • I have to wear x, y, or z sizes or I don’t feel as good about myself.
  • That item doesn’t go with anything but __.

Here are a few others I’ve heard since starting GTR and talking with some of you:

  • I’m afraid to wear something nice because it will get ruined {spilling food, caring for the kids, etc.}
  • I’m in a jeans rut.
  • I don’t know how to dress my body.
  • Looking nice has to be expensive.
  • I always chicken out and wear an item just like usual rather than experimenting with a new combination.
  • I don’t know how to pair things.

These things may or may not be true, but unless we test them, we won’t know and they hold us back.

We’re going to talk about how to do that next week, but in the meantime, will you be brave and share an invisible script that you’ve believed about your clothing?

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  • Selah November 30, 2013 at 5:32 PM

    I used to believe that solids were more versatile than patterns, as far as mixing and matching. Therefore, I owned almost NO prints.
    Now, I own a lot of prints and find them to be some of my most versatile pieces. I even do a fair amount of pattern mixing! :)

    • Caitlin Author December 6, 2013 at 8:14 AM

      Ah! So proud of you :)

  • Kelsey Clark November 30, 2013 at 6:40 PM

    Great topic! A few I have are:

    -you can only wear certain colors during certain times of the year (like white in summer, pastels during spring, red, green, gold during holidays)
    – I can’t wear sleeveless tops or pencil skirts or peplum or skinny jeans or insert any other style of clothing (different types have happened at different points of my life)
    – No black and brown together (all lies)
    – I’ve believed in the past that I couldn’t shop at certain stores because I knew their price range was greater than my ideals of what I am willing to pay. Like Ann Taylor, which I avoided for a long time, but then when I started shopping their sale rack, I found some great, well made blouses for less or equal to somewhere like Old Navy. It’s all about perception.

    • Caitlin Author December 6, 2013 at 8:15 AM

      Boom. You nailed it, Kelsey. It’s all about perception. Often the thoughts we have take over and they’re so subtle we don’t even question them. Thanks for sharing!

  • Felicia December 2, 2013 at 1:24 AM

    I was just thinking about “◾I’m afraid to wear something nice because it will get ruined {spilling food, caring for the kids, etc.}”
    All of those scripts apply to me because I’m a klutz and I have a toddler. Somehow, she’s always sticky, dirty, or boogery. This is totally a dilemma of mine.

    • Selah December 2, 2013 at 10:16 PM

      Having finally gotten out of the “jam hands” phase of child rearing, I can say that being afraid to wear nice things will pass. Personally, I think it’s appropriate to dress for your current lifestyle, and sometimes that means wearing clothes that are easily washable. This doesn’t mean you can’t dress nicely and stylishly, it just means you’ll want to stay away from delicate fabrics, like silk.

      • Caitlin Author December 6, 2013 at 8:26 AM

        Yes! Exactly. You can make your wardrobe work to fit your life stage, and that doesn’t have to mean sacrificing style. It just requires a little more finagling. :)

    • Caitlin Author December 6, 2013 at 8:16 AM

      Yay! Not for the dilemma, but because hopefully we’ll be able to get to a place where we are on the other side of those worries.

  • Amy G December 2, 2013 at 2:10 PM

    I never consider buying yellow or orange clothing for myself because I believe they don’t work on me. In most cases, it’s actually true, but there are probably ways I could make those colors work if I tried.
    I also tell myself that I can’t wear skinny jeans unless it’s with boots because they emphasize how much bigger my thighs are than the rest of my legs. I did make an attempt to fight that today, though – I wore black skinnys with flats to work! They’re looser at the ankle, which helps in my case.
    I also have a tendency to stick to tradition/obvious color combinations, but I’ve been getting better about that lately!

    • Caitlin Author December 6, 2013 at 8:22 AM

      I’ve loved seeing you step outside of your comfort zone over the last couple of months with different color combinations! And you’re right- there are ways to make colors that “don’t work” on you still work within your wardrobe! That’s something I have struggled with in the past as well, and I’m excited to share a few of the ways I’ve worked through that. Hopefully they’ll be helpful to y’all and you can learn from my mistakes :)

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